the older generations

We went out of town this weekend for a family wedding. It was great seeing all the family and getting reaquainted with those you only see once in awhile. We also met some fabulous people. I even broke the news of our adoption to the "Aunties"! They are in their 80's and are from that generation that isn't quite as open with adoption or race. But they took it well. But I didn't give them much of an option. One even said, "Why! Can't you have kids of your own?" I didn't even take it hard and came back with, "this is what we've always wanted to do and now is the right time for us." The end. Some took it better than others and shared our happiness. The cousins were great and very happy for us. Lot's of questions and all positive. Love that! I haven't mentioned this but my Mom hasn't exactly been supportive of this. She thinks we DO too much. She had my sister and I 23 yrs apart so basically had 1-child at a time. Very low key, not the high energy fast moving family like what we have. I felt it was boring. That's why I always wanted a large family. Hubby came from a large family. He initally stated he only wanted 1 maybe 2 kids. Funny the difference in how you feel based on your family or childhood. His Mom is impressed with what I've accomplished with him! (lol) At first my Mom would almost act mad and not even talk to me when I brought up the adoption. But I'm a talker and she's my MOM! So if I feel like telling her about it I DO IT! My sister has been kind enough to talk her through this and explain we're going through this no matter how she feels about it so she should be supportive. Thank goodness for her! She's there to listen to me through all this and be the supportive one. Good thing for email and cell phones! So I just kept on sharing bits of info on our adoption with Mom and now at least she doesn't get mad about it or try to lecture me. I include her in the baby name poll, and talk to her about our trip, decorating the babies room, what I'll need to buy. And I believe she's warming up. She'll fall in love with her when she sees her just like we will. She loved the kids of an old friend that adopted from Korea. She couldn't wait to get her hands on them, so I'm sure she'll warm up to ours as well.
But at first it was awful trying to explain things to her. I would even print out things from the internet on adoption, famous people, successful people, things to NOT say to the adoptive parents and more to include her in all of this. Being 43 years older than me, we've always had a few differences! Just think there will be 39-40 years between myself and my youngest daughter! NEVER thought that would happen. But I'm hipper! I'll be young forever! (all you older folk reading this do not laugh too loud!) I WAS just playing football in our hallway a few hours ago...